(slight disclaimer - I did not write this with the intention of hurting her feelings. as such, I hope she does not read it)
(this was written yesterday)
Back when DeBee and I were dating, she presented my sister with a gift when my nephew was born. The gift was the use of a cradle. It is an incredibly beautiful wooden cradle that was hand-made for DeBee. She decided to let my sister use it for as long as she needed it. She did this without my knowledge or input. I only found out afterwards when it was dropped at my house (closer) for my sister to pick up. At the time I thought she did this to be genuinely nice. Now I think she did it to perhaps make herself look good or to get in with my family (by the way, that's not how you get in with Italians).
Exactly a week ago, DeBee sent me an email entitled "I need..." (a lot of things entered my mind). The body of it said "the cradle ... I have offered it to another friend. Can you please find to drop it off to me as soon as possible. DeBee". So much for my sister's use of it. It's not like the baby grew out of it already. When we broke up, I gave my sister all of DeBee's info (email, address, and phone) as well as contacted DeBee to assure her that the cradle would go back to her no matter if her and I remained friends. Needless to say, I was a little upset by the email. Why should I have to get in the middle of this when this was something she did entirely on her own. Although I did not respond, I forwarded the email to my sister.
The week goes by and DeBee sends me another email Sat night with the subject "can you please..." and the body "let your sister know to just leave the cradle on my screened in porch--when it is convenient for her (but as soon as she can)--I am not home much these days to make a time that works for all of us. Thanks, DeBee". I did not know it at the time but I found out today that my sister called her at least twice over the weekend to make arrangements. Instead of dealing directly with my sister, she emailed me instead. Why? I forwarded the email to my sister on Monday(?) I believe. I also replied to DeBee letting her know. What I really wanted to say was how dare you get me involved with something I had nothing to do with... and... it's incredibly poor taste on your part to go back on a gift you gave (meaning the usage of the cradle, not the cradle in itself). I was upset enough that I went to her house last night and dropped off a couple of items of hers that I had in my car (waiting for the day I would be in her neighborhood). Just a couple of CD's and misc. stuff. I left a voice message telling her I left it on the porch and wished her a Merry Christmas. I spoke with my sister this afternoon and it turns out she just dropped off the cradle today(too funny on the timing)! When I informed my sister and then found out about the phone calls she left, she said why didn't she just call me back and deal with me directly?
It has been suggested that DeBee is just trying to contact me and/or stay involved in my life. But if this is true, why this way? I already suggested trying to be friends and she agreed at one point. Although every time I would chat or email with her, she would purposely try to upset me. It wasn't working and I got tired of the attempts and deleted her from my IM. Not block, just deleted so that there is no temptation to contact her. I will respond though, like I said, I would like to be friends. She is a fascinating person but still......